Pink and Undecided

Gyaru Mama!

Hi peeps!

How’s your Christmas, everybody? I believe whether or not all of you celebrates Christmas it is still a pretty fun season for all of us, yes? I absolutely love the atmosphere around Christmas, all of the beautiful Christmas decorations!!! I do not celebrate Christmas myself (as I’ve explained in previous post), but I certainly love it anyway! Even my church which used to be dead set against Christmas nowadays put on Christmas trees and have Christmas parties, they said “let’s see it as a tradition, a celebration, a day to have fun”, and I 100% agree! I’m dreaming of a white Christmas… now, I’m not singing. I really am. LOL. I will have a white Christmas one day! Be it next next year or the next, I am determined!

I know I talk about gyaru a lot but I also know that a lot of you probably went “huh, what?” so I decided it’s time to tell you a little bit about my fashion style *blush* (and then you’ll also know what gyaru means LOL because I will be explaining it along the way). By knowing my fashion style you will get to know me better :D. So, you probably know by now that I have five BFFs right? I also have a lot of other close friends , but out of all of my friends I think I dress the most differently. The closest one to me when it comes to style? I guess that would be LL.

With A and LL at Jakarta Airport, but LL is in a normal getup haha

I personally (obvi!) doesn’t think I dress weirdly, but sometimes when i go out (okay, a lot of time zzzz) people will stare at me. I mean, I don’t care if the one doing the staring is a cute guy (but most of the cute guys who stared at me are like… as young as my nephews. HUHUHUHUHUUU FML) but when it’s another girl (or worse, some aunty) and she stares with such a witchy look, up and down up and down, I’d start to feel self conscious zzzz. But I usually console myself, it’s probably the hair, or my height (coz I like to wear heels, and me on heels is pretty towering for an Asian girl), the staring will get worse if I go out with #Undecided, I guess two tall-kinda blondish girls (for Asian, I repeat. I don’t think I’m tall at all in Western standard) who talk nonstop and gesticulating like mad plus laughing like banshees are pretty eye catching, huh?

See what i mean? i dress differently from the rest LOL

But sometimes I guess (pains me to admit) it’s probably my fashion choices. I am not one to follow trends (I’m a fashionista but I’m not a follower, no way! In fact when a trend is in full blown I’d buy the piece but won’t wear it until it’s blows over hahaha, I hate looking just like any other girls in the crowd-and then I complain about being stared at? What the hell do you really want #Pink??), I know really well what I like and what suits me (although some people like my mum or wayyyy older sister readily disagree HAHA) and I dress to please MYSELF. Never other people. So I figure, if I love the way I look and feel good about what I wear, screw other people! (but in my defense I often got people stopping me in malls asking where I got my dress, my shoes, my bags, etc also whenever I put on my cam-whoring photo in my BBM people loves to comment and ask where I got my whateva. So I must’ve a pretty good taste afterall!)

I never really given much thought of my own style, I don’t even know what it’s called, but I must admit that Japanese has always got my attention. Wayyy before Japanese and Korean style+movies+songs invade Indonesia I’ve already been attracted to them. Plus I went to high school in Singapore and during that time J-Pop (and J-Rock, obvi) are already HUGE there. Yes, I’m old. I came from an era where SMAP was really HUGE (HUGE. They were like those Korean boybands like to you youngsters. My 14 and 12 years old nieces loves SuJu or whateva those boybands called). I was in love with Takuya Kimura (no don’t worry I’m not as old as him ahahahaha) and I idolized Speed. I also worship Ayumi Hamasaki, until today I think she is the prettiest girl in the world.

My version of the prettiest girl in the world

I wasn’t always into fashion, afterall when I was younger we all wear nothing but jeans and a loose tee (remember those junior high days, #Undecided?) and felt cool as ice haha. Plus I was a lot heavier back then (not that I am skinny now, but at least I fit into M-sized clothes now so shut it. Would love to drop lots of kgs but not willing to starve myself anymore so whateva lah zzz) so no pretty clothes would fit me anyway.

I got really skinny during my highschool-early uni day tho (huhuhuhuhu, when will I ever get that body back? NEVER! HAHAHAHAH FML) and I got really MAD with clothes. I started shopping non-stop. But back then my style was still very simple, just a lot of jeans/miniskirts and tanktops (very slutty, people will die if I wear those clothes now ahahahaha, pollution to the eyes), so I don’t remember when I start finding my REAL style, probably mid-university days (FML, very late bloomer eh) and I got really comfortable with myself and start accepting myself, flaws and all, the way I am. I’m finally at peace and start enjoying life (used to be super insecure. Who wouldn’t when you were 12-13 and nasty boys would tease you endlessly but ended up confessing their crush on you, eff y’all!)

Anyway, then I found out the style I really comfortable with which is feminine and girly. I loveeee dresses and skirts, #Undecided said I wouldn’t be caught dead wearing a pair of jeans (I have super huge thigh, it’s hard to find jeans that fits when your thigh are hure and your mid-section’s regular, if the jeans got through my thunder thigh it’ll be super loose like three sizes too big on my waist/hip that if I sit you’ll be treated to 2 whole buttcheeks, fancy that? If the waist area’s a perfect fit it’ll never get past my super thigh, so what’s a girl to???), I’m not very comfortable in pants (I do wear them from time to time though, like… once a year? Hahaha). I (obvi) love pink dresses and all of the other pastel colors. Love tiered skirts, chiffon tops and dresses, full princess skirts, lace and blings. Not that I wear them 24/7 of course, you’ve seen from my previous posts that I wear simple and dark-colored clothings too.

My less feminine look? LOL

I’ve been carrying this looks for many many years now, and the closest I got from knowing what the look categorized as is when people would say “how Lolita!”, but I don’t think I’m a Lolita (but I’d love to be one, if only I was born in Japan huhuhu, I’d be strolling around harajuku all day in my Lolita getup!) though, not as extreme at least. I am guilty of wearing floaty tartan miniskirts and tutus, clutching my weird shaped bags (pig, owl, apple, vintage phone, dog, etc), putting on outrageous flower headpieces (flower, feather, big bow, collects them all), putting on baby pink blush on and drawing thick-catty eyeliners (trust me, I do not learn from anyone how to do my makeup, I just know by instincts what suits my face or not, so I am quite shocked when I watch makeup tutorials and recognize a LOT of my own tricks used, FML, I should’ve been one hahahahaha), wear knee-socks and socks im general with my mary-janes, etc. I always thought I am quirky but not quirky enough to be a Lolita hahaha.

My sis went nutz seeing this photo asking why i dressed like a Cabaret dancer ROFL

And lately I’ve been reading lots of blogs and as I’ve told you before, my favorites are Xia Xue, Qiu Qiu, Cheesie and Audrey, and then I saw the way they dresses and though to myself “OMG! They dress like me! They are all above 25 years old and dress like that also, so I’m not like super crazy right dressing like that!” (and no, I definitely NOT copying their styles okay coz I’ve been dressing this way for years already, way before I start reading their blogs!)

So… I guess i’m a gyaru! A gyaru-mama to be exact hahaha. And I love and am proud to be one! Probably not so many yet in Indonesia, I don’t care lah I told you I’m not one to follow trends. In a way, not to brag, I have a pretty good instinct when it comes to up-coming fashions. Like, I’d suddenly become into neon colors and the next thing I know everybody’s wearing neons FML.

My mum and wayyyy older sister (she’s 11 years older than me, from an entirely different generation so I understand why she doesn’t get me at all, she thinks I’m a little insane probably) and even my overtly possessive older brothers (I’m the baby in the family, my closest-in-age sibling is 7 years older than me, now you know why I’m so spoilt and according to Rosemary, suffering from a Princess syndrome. I am my daddy and hunny’s Princess!) all sometimes almost need a jaw replacement coz theirs would just drop to the floor when they see me, my mum sometimes said “why are you dressed like a kid, dress mature lah like your sister!” (well, hello mummy, my sister is 11 years older than me, if I dress like her I’d look like an aunty lah!!!), but then when I do dress a little more mature she’d complain “why are you dressing like that??? So age inappropriate! That look is for your sister one lah! So old!” HAIIIIII mummy what do you wanttttt *sobs dramatically while pulling out….#Undecided’s hair HAHAHHAAHHA, mine already so fine if I pull them out I’d be bald*, while my sister thinks my clothes are just… insane (but secretly pulling a similar look next, she’s so weird) but that’s okay!

My Geisha inspired look :p

I love my style and it will most probably change in the future but right now this is me, this is what I am comfortable with. If you don’t like it then I suggest you to cover your eyes and run the other way coz I really don’t care hahahaha. Nowadays girls are crazy about ulzzang look, but seriously look at those Korean girlbands and actresses, they all look THE SAME. I can never tell one from the other ahahahaha. None of them look particularly pretty to me, just a uniform look from one girl to the next. Whatever the hell’s so interesting about it? I got so offended when people tells me I look Korean (if any Korean reads this, I’M SORRY!!! No offence! It’s just a dressing and makeup preference okay!) and I got that a LOT -___-, went to Santosa island this June with hunny and baby and people would keep on “anneyonghaseoo”2 to us even though we chattered away in Indonesian HUHUHUHUHU. If a friend tells me “wow your look, so Korean” I’d hastily correct them “Japanese! Grrrrrr!” (But I do love ulzzang’s gradient lip! I do my lips that way all the time!)

Honestly it’s not like I never tried Otona looks, I do! But my friends would scold me *especially #Undecided* ,even when I’m just showing them something out of character like a though-looking-skull-bearing Alexander Mcqueen inspired clutches or rings they’d go “wtf!!! No!!! it doesn’t suit you!!!! So scary looking!!!”, #Undecided even went a step further and accusing me to look like a kid dressing up in her mummy’s dress hahahahaa, so maybe I’ll dress mature when my face matures a bit hahaha.

Wore this to Baby Boy's Parent Teacher Conference and this is the least frilly and girly look i pull for a PTC to date

A well-known blogger from Singapore, Yukatis tweeted “One day I will dress in shirts and blazers, just not now, I m still capable of dressing up in ridiculous styles, doing it while I still can.” And I agree more! Go gyaru-mamas!

Head Dress was the dress code for my birthday two years ago

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MERRY CHRISTMAS!!! Present For You! Our #23-24!

MERRY CHRISTMAS PEOPLE!!!!!!!! *Fireworks!* *Confetti* *Trumpet Blaring!*

We’re #Pink and #Undecided and we’re wishing you a very Merry Christmas, full of joy and laughter and lotsa presents!!! What is our present for you guys, you say? Err… we would host a giveaway but not enough of you guys are leaving comments *strong hints* so maybe in the future? We are very keen to do so! Let us know if you guys are interested! Follow our blog and leave comments and we will host a giveaway once enough people do so hihihihhi! In the mean time… you guys have to be satisfied with an entry… Another joint one *yay!*

Today we’re presenting the next of our #25 Favorite Things , so here comes #23-24! Both #24 and #25 are people, see if your make our list!

#23 is our girlfriends! We love them to bits! We seriously cannot understand people who got married and then stop having friends. Their life must be super dull *snooze*. There are days when we feel such negativities towards our respective spouses (like #Undecided at the moment I believe HIHIHIHI) that all that can turn the day towards a better one is being around our girlfriends! And we both hates going shopping with boys, girlfriends are the way to go! Here are some of them we have to mention :

G : I’ve known G the longest, about 18 years? OMG (she once said that if we had a kid together the kid would be old enough to get married soon, LOL). Other than #Undecided she is definitely the closest one to me, we BBM each other constantly too. I tell her everything as well, although sometimes she can be a little…err… slower HAHAHAHHAA *Sorry G!* that it needs extra patience talking to her HUAHAHHAHAHAHAHA. But G is the most patience and probably the kindest amongst us. I love you G and I hope we will be friends until we’re old and grey! MUACKS

#Undecided says: to me G is actually a bff turned family because she just got married to my hubby’s cousin (oh yeah, besides from being an awesome person in general and an astrology-enthusiast, I moonlight as a matchmaker LOL). #Pink is right when she said that G is the most patient of us all, but sometimes her patience is maddening because she would tolerate almost every crap people throw her way (yes, for reals!!). #Pink and I are always the two person trying to save her, but we’ll do it over and over again because that’s how much we love her.

W: W is our other BFF, we don’t talk about her too much because she is now living in another … city? A very small city I think hahaha (dare I say… semi-village? HAHAHAHHAH KIDDING!). So we don’t get to see her too much lately. We miss you W! Always! W is a positive person who always try to see the good in people (sometimes too optimistic I think!) and she’s the most motherly amongst us. We cannot wait for a nephew or niece from her!

#Undecided says: W is definitely the most mature amongst us. Talking to her sometimes can feel like talking to an aunt or something – that’s how motherly she is. She has all the reasonable advices, but when it comes to herself, she can be as clueless as the next person. W is highly religious and I think this is why she has a slightly different view towards the world (compared to us sinners LOL). Before G, I also played cupid and introduced W to the man that she eventually married. And I think in order to “pay” the matchmaking fee, they used my Event Organizer for their wedding LOL. If there’s one thing I know for sure about her is that she will be an awesome parent one day (but #Pink and I will definitely be the fun aunts who throws treats your kids’ ways, W!! LOL)

A : A is also another one of our BFF, lately she’s been busy with married life I guess, and she’s a newly wed so we need to give her some space obvi *LOL*. Between A and the other two if we’re being honest A is probably the most similar to us in terms of bitchiness HAHAHAH. A is a perfectionist also, and she often get stressed out because she tends to over think things, don’t stress A!

#Undecided says: if we were the 7 Dwarfs, A would definitely be Sleepy. She can sleep at the drop of a hat, and once she’s out, no matter what we do (#Pink’s hubby tried choking her with pillow once – didn’t work – we were the ones who got scared that he might end up murdering her or something LOL), she’ll stay out until she decides to come out of her slumber. True story. BUT aside from being a sleepy-head, she’s one hardworking gal. She works 8 to 5 (FYI, we happen to work for the same company and she’s one of the few people I would safely leave my station to), she also runs an online shop and is actually doing great. If you guys are looking for cheap and quality makeup items, just pay her facebook a visit: Etude House Surabaya

These two are additions from #Pink :

LL : you guys should know her pretty well by now because I mentioned her a lot. Like #Undecided and #G, me and LL also BBM each other constantly, mostly talking about shopping *teehee, told you she understands me best in this area*, or bitching about annoying people. And LL also has a kid (a daughter), none of my BFFs has any yet so sometimes it is nice to be able to talk about kid issues with her *although I share everything about Baby Boy to #Undecided as well because she’s like his God Mother haha*. I LOVE going shopping with LL, and travelling with her as well, she’s definitely an ideal travel companion.

#Undecided says: I actually know LL from #Pink. She is another crazy shopper. God forbid I go to malls with them and they end up shopping *straight face*. She is a very fun girl to hang out with. I remember one rare Wednesday afternoon that I got a free day and we ended up going to Tunjungan Plaza with #Pink’s cousin, L. It was so much fun. Other than being a shopaholic and a doting mother, she is also a crazy talented artist – I LOVE her designs. She was the one that did my save-the-date email (thanks LL *kisses*) and to prove my point: people raved about how awesome it was.

Rosemary : Rosemary is also a very important girlfriend of mine, although we only met once it doesn’t feel like it! We BBM each other so much and talking to her is like talking to a very old friend (well, we do know each other for a few years already) and whenever I am upset about something she is one of the few people I seek to bitch to (and vice versa!) and she always knows the right thing to say. I will feel much better once I “talk” to her. And she is also quite a shopaholic so we talk about shopping a lot too HAHA.

Addition from #Undecided :

#Undecided says: Sem K is not exactly a girlfriend, because of the obvious reason: he’s a guy LOL, but I think he deserves a spot on this entry because he’s literally my oldest friend. I’ve known him since the 1^st grade of our junior high school (even longer than I’ve known #Pink *gasp*) – so basically I’ve known him forever (again, too lazy to count the years LOL). He is such an awesome friend and even though he lives in Canada and we only get to see each other a few times for the past few years, we manage to always keep in touch thanks to the geniuses in Blackberry who created the BBM app LOL. I guess it’s safe to say that he knows everything about me and vice versa (right Sem K, right!??!). And I think we got lucky that my hubby and his girlfriend have no problem with us being friends (because some people can be super shallow and think that a man and a woman cannot be friends without falling helplessly in love with each other and eventually ditch their own spouses – PUHLEASE!!).

If he’s reading this (and he will because I will make him), I just want him to know that I am grateful for a friend like him (for all the reasons that he already knows). And I’m looking forward to his wedding – hopefully it’s going to go down in Surabaya so I can be his best (wo)man. LOL. Love you, Sem K!!! You’re the best!!!

#24 is the men in our lives. We love them, we hate them, we cannot live without them, we cannot stand them, well… that’s constantly changing LOL! But one thing for sure is our lives would not be complete without them! Five of us is like a gank and we love to be around each other (most of the time anyway HAHAHA). Those men are :

#Pink’s hubby :

Super annoying but has a gentle heart and super patient when it comes to #Pink. Been together for 11 years, married for 5, and #Pink believes there is nobody else in this world that can treat her the way he does. Everyday feels like the first day of being together and we do not understand the concept of being “bored” of each other LOL (I can never understand people who were very surprised when they first learnt how long we'd been dating back then, "Aren't you bored???" they always said, and I always reply "If you're bored the you clearly have not found The One. Keep Looking!). We spent every single day together and feels there is something missing whenever we're not together. Who says romance has to die once you have a kid?

Even though he annoys the shit out of me and sometimes I wanna punch him in the face, it never lasts long. In the end of the day I am always thankful for him in my life. I am looking forward to an eternity with him :). I will one day make a post about my "love story" with him :p.

#Undecided says: C is one very annoying person (and I’m saying this with a lot of love LOL). I don’t know why but he just LOVES getting on my nerves. From intentionally stepping on the back of my shoes/slipper/sandals to saying the most ridiculous lines one could teach his son to tease his aunt, C is one crazy dude. I’ve known him for more than 10 years now (goodness gracious, we’re old!!) and I still laugh hysterically whenever I remember the younger version of him. Tall, skinny, and #Pink’s ever present tail, for he would follow wherever she would go. His adoration towards my bff is so inspirational, I am willing to forgive his annoyingness. If it’s not apparent from her posts, #Pink is one high maintenance girl, I’ll say it takes a lot of patience and effort to win someone like her, and C definitely is equipped with both. He is the perfect guy for my bff and I had no complaint since day one (trust me, I had lots of complaints towards my other bffs’ previous men).

He is now a dear dear friend and even though I will deny deny deny ever saying this, but I know that beyond the annoying mask he puts up, there’s a kind hearted family man inside. Once again #Pink and I got lucky because C gets along super well with my hubby. They’re like a gay married couple – seriously it’s so funny how much they love each other.

To sum it up, not only C is an amazing hubby and father, he is also a good friend whom my hubby and I cherish. We love you, C!! Tone down the annoyingness though, please!!!

#Undecided’s hubby :

#Pink says : he used to annoy me to death, but little by little I grew to love him, now he’s like my extra brother haha. He’s a big kid, very playful and naughty looking. He loves to tease people (me… FML… my hubby too, poor hubby) and he never stops eating HAHAHA. I HATE #Undecided’s ex before him with passion (if you ever read this, EFF YOU. No, not you De *LOL*) and I was really happy she finally found him. Like I’ve always said, only marry the one that will treat YOU like a Queen or you’re better off alone. He's also Baby Boy's fave uncle and I love it whenever we go out together without the nanny because he will instantly take over the nanny duty!

#Undecided says: where do I even begin, really?! My hubby is – just like C – a very annoying person (what did #Pink and I do in our previous lives to end up with two annoying guys, we will never know LOL), but he has his moments. And I love him. He gets me just like how #Pink gets me, and that’s exactly what I look for in a guy. He’s #Pink in pants (what an appropriate expression since you’ll NEVER see #Pink in pants) LOL. Their similarities are staggering. Just like #Pink, he has a very reasonable view towards problems and like I said before, he’s my source of sane advices. And on the less serious side, he has a ridiculous sense of humor (which is borderline crazy) and it’s safe to say that he’s the joker of our little group.

My hubby and I however, don’t always see eye to eye. He’s a Scorpio and I’m a Gemini. We are THAT different. It can be super frustrating at times because being a true Scorpio he can be very demanding when he has set his mind at something and this baffles the Gemini me most of the times (because let’s face it, us Geminis never take things too seriously). But yea, after being with him for more than 4 years, I can say that I am a little used to his erratic behavior now. At least I’ll know when to take a step back and shut my mouth when he’s in one of his moods. After all, being married is all about compromising, right? We got married last October but we’re hardly newlyweds because we lived together for more than a year before tying the knots, and I’m forever grateful that we did because during that period of time, I got to learn more about him because we were one of those long distance couple (that made it work).

If I have to put my finger on the thing I love most about him, it’s going to be how he trusts me completely. A Gemini flirts – that is in our DNA – but that doesn’t mean we want to be with every guy we flirt with, NO. With his trust, he lets me be me, knowing that at the end of the day I have no other place I’d rather be than at his side. I love that about him. Oh that and the fact that he’s super good with kids. I love watching him hang out with #Pink’s baby boy and someday if we’re blessed with a kid of our own, I’m sure he’ll be one kickass dad.

I’m looking forward to growing old with you, hubster. And remember that I love you TOO!! *kisses*

#Baby Boy :

He came unexpectedly and totally caught us all by surprised (and that’s an understatement HAHA) and I loved him from the start. I long to hold him since he was still inside my belly and seeing his 3D ultrasound brought tears to my eyes. Until this day I cannot believe I have a son hahaha. I love him to bits and although I am not the best mum ever, and I am definitely have a LOT to learn, he is my everything and I HATE people who thinks I am a useless mother with passion haha. Baby Boy is super bright, when he talks (and he sure talks a LOT) he sounds mature way beyond his years. And although he can be a little naughty (he’s a boy afterall, but he’s very well behaved actually) and spoilt (well, with so many people spoiling him it’s hardly a surprise) in the end of the day I believe he is the kind of son every mother dreams of. He sure is mine. I can go on forever about him but you'd think I am biased, so I will let #Undecided do more of the talking.

#Undecided says: “a five-year-old who acts like an adult” is the perfect line to describe this little dude whom I love wholeheartedly. Kudos to #Pink and C for joining forces and made such a perfect little kiddo LOL. He is the smartest kid I know – sometimes too smart for his own good, but I wouldn’t have him any other way. I love him like he’s my own and if there’s a kid that can make his aunty biting (“biting” is Indonesian for “stick” – yes, his annoying father taught him to call me that, so it’s basically not his fault) plays made-believe war with toy guns and car, that would be him LOL.

My hubby and I love to play the fun uncle and aunt because basically we don’t have to be the strict parents LOL and it’s mostly a competition between us because I would like to think that I’m his fave (although most of the times baby boy picks hubby over me, but I’m sure that is only because they’re both boys *licking my wounded pride solemnly*). I know baby boy is in good hands for he has #Pink and C as his parents and hubby and I as his number one fans. He will do well in life because he is loved by so many people, but with that super cute face and an endearing demeanor, who wouldn’t, right!?

I cannot wait to see him grow as a young man. Wait, scratch that. I actually CAN wait, because on second thought, he needs to be little and cute forever, or until #Pink makes another baby for me to play with LOL. But seriously though, I am grateful to be a part of his life and I plan to forever be. And one day when he gets married (drat, we would be super old by then, #Pink!!!), I would love to be the fun grandma for his kids – just like how I am right now for him.

So there you go everybody, the 3 important men in our lives. I may have mentioned this earlier, but we did end up with the male versions of each other. I guess being bffs for so long has somehow prepared us to accept our men for who they are – and I’m glad we did. I’ve said this a lot of time to #Pink: for me personally, I don’t need a lot of people around because I always have the best fun as long as there are the 5 of us (yes with baby boy of course!).

Again, I’m going to leave you guys with a quote: “friends are the family you get to pick for yourselves”. Tis true. #Pink’s little family is my extended family, and I cannot stress just how thankful I am, everyday, for having them in my life.